Revealed! Some of the Most Cherished S*xual Pleasure Outlines Ever in History

Popular relationship and s*x therapist, Funmi Akingbade, has revealed in a new article some of the best cherished s*xual pleasure outlines for couples. It's an interesting one! 

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Inasmuch as married couples declare undying love for one another, and their marriage relationship is healthy and maybe they are also s*xually compatible, there is still a need for spouses to really hit pleasure line when sexually connected.

 

But with the way couples go about life, attending to most of life crucial needs, hitting the pleasure line are areas couples often ignore to their own peril. But even though we are often caught up in the several activities that define our daily lives, we can’t afford to ignore the best s*x has to offer.

 

Let’s see the several kinds of sexual pleasure lines spouses need to add to their list of discovery this weekend to re-energise their s*xual life. Yes, it is when couples unite sexually that one can say that their marriage is really living!

 

Recently, some British researchers asked 254 businessmen and women where they got their best and most creative ideas outside of the office. Their top five thinking zones are in the car, while socialising, while lazing around, in the toilet and after a good bout of lovemaking with their spouses. Whoa!

 

So, why limit your sexual experience, adventure and exploration to the same routine when there are lots of erotic, sensational and sensual s*xual bouquets that you and your spouse could sample from?

 

This week, in my quest to re-energise your sex beds, I am going to suggest twenty special secrets that would certainly enliven your s*xual taste and protect your marriage from the troubles that a sedentary s*x life brings to couples.

 

1. First, couples must dump the idea that great sex depends on great physical techniques. The joy of great sex is not only physical. Sure, the thing couples do to and with each other’s bodies feel good, but pleasure occurs in the brain, which means regardless of what’s happening down at those delicate nerves ending of the penis, scrotum, v*gina clitoris and the inner thighs, your state of mind is everything.

 

Partners can master every move of their spouse [especially long time married lovers] or even new married lovers can master every move in our previous articles, but unless you perform them in a way that resonates in the control centre, it is just pointless caressing each other. It will only look like you both are just rubbing yourselves.

 

2. Secondly, your physical look does not necessarily have to measure up to enjoy all pleasure lines and beyond. Harder and longer thrusting does not equate better but basic physical compatibility matters a lot.

 

3. Bringing your lover to climax doesn’t mean you’ve hit a homerun. An orgasm can be as intense and powerful as the popping of a champagne cork or as flat as opening a bottle of soda that’s lost all its fizz. It’s much more about what you’re feeling when you feel the waves than how the waves make you feel. I need couples to bear in mind that the view from the mountain top may be breathtaking, but the exhilaration comes from the climb.

 

4. Wives, please note that you do not have to be beautiful to be attractive. Unforgettable s*x does not actually depend on a perfect flat stomach, buttocks, breast, and v*gina, or well defined six packs for men. When both of you radiate love, it’s light that gives off a brilliant glow and this determines how your spouse sees you during s*x.

 

5. Spouses must learn how to read their partner’s moods, this is by far the greatest pleasure line enhancer. It puts both of you in the same wavelength. It requires tuning in completely to your spouse’s emotional state and focusing on giving him or her emotional pleasure along with the physical breathtaking pleasure. This entails knowing when to stop and when to keep going. Knowing when to change position to his or her favorable posture; knowing when to kiss the penis or the clitoris or simply gaze and admire and smile. Knowing when to grab and when to hold, when to move in and when to move back.

 

When to increase the space of the thrusting in and out and when to slow down and only deliberately rubbing on the clitoris. Knowing what your partner wants before your partner knows it. This type of knowing makes s*x feel simultaneously safe and dreamy, healing and out-of-this-world-kind-of-feeling, and creates a deep intimate connection that allows movement to flow wordlessly.

 

It requires tuning in completely to your partner’s emotional state and focusing on giving emotional pleasure along with the physical. You don’t have to ask how your partner wants it, whether what you’re doing feels good, or if it’s time for a bathroom break. You know. When both partners learn to read each other’s moods, lookout, sex is never the same again.

 

6. Celebrate your partner’s body—every single inch of it. There’s a difference between touching for your pleasure and touching for your partner’s. There’s also a difference between a touch that asserts or assumes ownership and an appreciative touch that conveys gratitude for a gift. When you celebrate, you include. When you celebrate, you indulge. When you celebrate, you go slowly. When you celebrate, you revere. Trust me on this one, nothing is hotter than a reverent touch. The more deeply respectful you are, the more deeply you will move your partner and the more likely you are to move deeper still.

 

When was the last time you took the time to admire her hands or feet, massage his arms or shoulders, gently stroke her hair, or run your hands from his thighs to his toes? When you celebrate, you are patient. You don’t go right for the hotspots. You make the effort to warm things up. As you focus on areas you thought weren’t sexy, they suddenly become sexy and you may hear your partner say, “No one has ever touched me there that way before.” Touch that celebrates is magical and electric. You’ll feel the charge in the air. And before you start, be sure to remove your smoke detector’s battery because sparks will start flying.

 

7. Please please and please connect hearts before parts. This is the foreplay that precedes foreplay, the coming together that precedes the coming together, because it’s the most important secret, and it’s easy to skip after mastering the other two. You can tune in and touch reverently, but if you forget to align yourself fully with your partner, to pause and remind each other with words, gestures, even a glance of the love you share, you’ll go through the motions of sex and end up feeling empty, you will never experience the pleasure line. When you feel, you’re drifting apart from your partner, it’s tempting to use sex to try to reconnect. But using intimacy to create connection is backwards. Connection creates intimacy, because connection presumes trust.

 

When you let your partner get close to you emotionally, you take your walls down and allow yourself to relax. This state of mental calmness has a tremendous effect on the body, priming it and making you intensely receptive. Your partner feels your energy and feeds on it, feels the hands of your mind before your touch, and when your fingers finally alight, you arouse feelings you’ve already awakened. But none of this happens if you don’t align your hearts first. The easiest way to get coordinated is to repeat a simple phrase together. Such as, “Horny, I married you and will remain here with you because I love you.” When you say these words in unison, the world around you melts away, and you’re ready to experience something unforgettable and you are already swimming in the pleasure line.

 

8. S*x is not just a physical act in which both are engaged but it is an unspoken language or a way to express feelings with your moves. So, talk with one another, verbal and non verbal words create a pleasure line fast. Don’t get too excited and act in hush. Try and create the environment, talk to one another, make him/her comfortable and be comfortable first. The more you will talk, more you will palpate with yourself.

 

I always admonish couples not to show off, especially when you want to prove a new style or new discovery. Nobody is interested in how wild and untamed you can be if what you learn or are about to give will make you lose sensitivity towards your spouse, it is not worth it.

 

About the Author:

Funmi Akingbade is a relationship and s*x therapist as well as a columnist for Punch newspaper.